What to Do After You’ve Been Fired

today is a great day | I’m going to guess that most of us have lost a job in either one way or another; by being smart and quitting or getting fired.   Your boss tells you, “We no longer require your services.  You’re Fired.  That is all.”  And poof.  Just like that, you’re cleaning out your desk with your face as long as Georgia Avenue.  Teary-eyed, wondering what the hell you’re gonna do.

You will be okay.  Being fired, though you may not see it now, is a blessing in disguise.  I’m sure it’s God’s way of saying, “You know what?  You’ve endured your a$$hole of a boss for long enough.  You’ve slaved for long enough.  You’ve wasted too much time for long enough.  You’ve been focusing on the wrong things for long enough.  And if I don’t move you from this job right now, you’ll continue to block my blessings!”

You’ve been fired.  REJOICE.  You are now FREE.  Free to prosper in your own business.  Do your happy dance.  A new world awaits you with plenty of benefits.

You can now decide your own income.

Contrary to what most people think, working for someone else isn’t the only way to have a sustainable income.  You have options.  I don’t care how much you got paid on your job, no J.O.B. is gonna put you at or on a path to Bill Gates’ level.  None I say.  None.  A job puts you in a state of being (j)ust (o)ver (b)roke.  Granted, there are some jobs that pay millionaire salaries.  Did you have one of those? No?  Well keep reading.

No more indentured servitude.

In the entrepreneurial world, you run into a jacka$$, you can turn around and head the other way.  In the corporate world, you have to say, “Sorry, boss.”  Your boss is your master and you are the slave and you better do what your boss says.  “Yessa Masta”

Did you know the word “boss” originated from the Dutch word “base” which means “master?”  The word ‘boss’ became a convenient moniker for the rising capitalistic equivalent of the corporate figurehead.

Start living like the powerful human being you were meant to be instead of the domesticated pet you were trained to be.

You can now use your time more effectively.

Only a handful of people, on this entire planet, cared how much time you spent at the office.  Do you know why?  Because the only thing that mattered is that you provided something of value.   People pay for the value they receive.  So, income is earned by providing value — not time.  Find a way to provide your best value to others, and charge a fair price for it.

Build systems that generate income 24/7, passive income.  This can include starting a business, building a web site, becoming an investor, or generating royalty income from creative work.   If you need to transition into this less abruptly, seek a job where you’ll be doing something you are really passionate about and then branch out on your own.  The point is do what YOU want to do and spend time increasing your income instead of merely maintaining it.

The initial investment of time and energy will pay you double in freedom.  And of course everything you learn along the way, you can share with others to generate even more value.  Mistakes can even be monetized.

Discover your true value.

Does this scare you?  Do you think you can’t make it on your own because you ‘think’ you may not have any real value to offer others.  Did the firing traumatize you that much?  Did you think being an employee and getting paid by the hour was the best you could do?  Stop that.  Stop that thinking right now!  That line of thinking is from your conditioning.  It’s absolute nonsense.  As you begin to dump such brainwashing, you’ll soon recognize that you have the ability to provide enormous value to others and that people will gladly pay you for it.

You have the courage in you.  It’s obviously dormant right now, but shake it up.  Call it out.  (There’s power in the tongue you know.)  Your real value is rooted in who you are, not what you do.  It’s that I AM within.

Yes, people will in your business.  Doing more worrying than you.  Asking you over and over, “Did you find a job? Did you find a job?  Did you find a job?”   Just reply, “Can you get a life? Can you get a life?  Can you get a life?” and keep steppin’.  You’ll be okay.

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5 Proven Ways to Teach Your Child Entrepreneurship

today is a great day | Have you ever noticed how children are so free-spirited, uninhibited, fearless and creative?  Not only that, they’re like little sponges and the best part is, while they’re young, they do what we tell them.  It’s not until they’ve been polluted with our ways of thinking and our own fears that they begin to lose those priceless qualities.

I’ve had an entrepreneurial spirit since before I could walk.  No joke.  Ask anyone that knows me.  They’ll tell you I’m always starting a business or organizing something! LOL.  I don’t mind tooting my own horn because I’m good at what I do, so – Toot! Toot!

I’ve started countless businesses, some great big flops, some successful and many sitting on my mental shelf waiting to be cultivated.  I’m thankful most for all the flops because in those, I learned valuable lessons and shortcuts that led me to many successful endeavors.  I pass what I learn to my children and revel in delight as I watch them grow into successful entrepreneurs.  So here are 5 tips from the countless tips and experiences I’ve had in teaching my children about entrepreneurship.

Tip #1 – Condition your mind first, then condition your child’s mind.  If you don’t already have your own business, get one.  Pronto.  If entrepreneurship isn’t already your way of life, and you can’t really afford to quit your day job, start a side gig.  Talk about it all the time to your child.  Entrepreneurship must be something you believe in and practice before you can teach it to someone else.  Even if you’re not that great at it, your children will see you making that effort and practicing until you get it right, which is a skill you want them to have.  Remember, if you’re not practicing it, trying to teach it to your child would be a “do as I say, not as I do,” and we all know how that turns out.

Tip #2 – Turn their hobby into a business.  Cut out “couch potato” time and turn the television off.  Take away the video games too, unless they’re programming them.  Without these distractions, children are forced to create their own entertainment and tinker with projects.  During this time, observe your children to see what they like to do.  Notice what their hobbies are.  A hobby is the best business because it never feels like work, just fun.

For example, my daughters, Kayla and Mina, loved creating their own jewelry to wear with their outfits, especially Mina. What started out as a hobby, soon became a small profitable business, LaBellaMina.  I’m such a proud Mama!

I admit, they only decided to monetize their hobby after I said NO to buying them a PSP (some silly video game player).  But none-the-less, they have a business that is profitable and has been from day one.  I even took pics that first day (two years ago).  You can see how happy they were, having made so much money their first day of business ($55 in 2 hours).  Kayla even enlisted 1 employee that day! LOL

They have created beautiful pieces that are colorful and vibrant.  I’m amazed at their sense of style and so are others judging from their success at craft shows, neighborhood events and requests from their friends. Here’s a sampling…

I’m going to have them back online soon so be sure to check their jewelry website, http://www.LaBellaMina.com, soon :-).

Tip #3 – Let your child handle their own money. Some of you may be freaking out because I said that, for fear that they’ll somehow lose it. But it’s just that…YOUR fear.  Your fear that they’ll be broke and poor.  Let me break it down.  Being broke and being poor are two totally different circumstances.  Broke is a temporary or momentary lack of funds, in the financial sense.  But being poor is a state of mind on a poverty level.  As long as you are conditioning your child’s mind of abundance and prosperity, it’s okay for them to be broke at times.  They’ll naturally be resilient and pop up with even more money than they had before.

Furthermore, when children handle their own money, they become directly aware of profit, how to make it and how to keep it.  Now, as a child, is the best time for them to make mistakes and learn from them.  Also, let them see you handling your own finances (ie, billing clients, making deposits, paying household expenses, making investments, saving, etc.). Remember, monkey see, monkey do, your child will copy, off of you!

Tip #4 – Have your child repeat and write daily affirmations of success. This is so important because it helps them become mentally strong against other “would be negative teachers”.  I’m sure people mean well, but you have to be careful of school teachers, family members, and just others in general who believe in studying hard in school, to get a good job equates to success.

Don’t let these people “raise” your children with their pre-historic thinking. Jobs are for suckers.  (No pun intended if you have a job, slaving for someone else, making them rich off your hard work.  I’ll give you multiple reasons why no one in their right mind should aspire to get a job in another post. *smiles*)

Remember that movie Pretty Woman with Julia Roberts?  Loved it!  That scene where Roberts says, “I say WHO, I say WHEN, I say HOW MUCH!” is a perfect example of calling your own shots… well maybe it’s not an appropriate example but you get the point.  Here are some of the affirmations I have my children say everyday:

  • I attract prosperity with all of my ideas.
  • I AM success and I AM victorious.
  • I have the power within me.
  • It takes anywhere between 30-90 days to impress upon the unconscious or “reacting” mind all that you desire and dream. Then it becomes automatic behavior in the conscious or “acting” mind.  Affirmations are the same as doing any type of repetitive exercise to change or learn a new behavior. After you do it so many times, it becomes automatic.  After you say it so many times, you believe it.

    Tip #5 – Travel and explore different cultures with your children. The more your child is exposed to, the more cultural he/she becomes, and the bigger advantage he/she will have.  Plain and simple.

    Giving and passing that entrepreneurial spirit is the best financial gift you can give your child.  I think we forget that children have faith, not wavering faith like adults, for they have the ability to see the invisible and they believe in the incredible.  To them, anything is possible, unless you tell them it isn’t.

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    Shed Pounds of Bullsh!t with a Media Diet

    today is a great day | Beep. Beep. Beep. The alarm goes off.  Shower, dress, leave for work and make a quick stop at Starbucks to grab a venti Macchiato with a double shot of espresso and the morning paper.  Ahhhh, caffeine and news.  Great way to start the start the day… reading of murders in the burbs, discombobulated protesters, white collar theft, Haiti’s rising death toll and the media’s never ending barrage of silly Sarah Palin and her family media circus.  (That’s proof alone our society is badly bruised and dysfunctional.)  The media, in my opinion, is a decoy, deception…one big magic trick.

    I’m a casual nomediatarian and proud of it :-).  Let me ‘splain how it works…

    First, media dieting means restraining from all forms of mass communication such as television, newspapers, radio, magazine publishing, and film.  Basically, the goal is to eliminate any form of communication that contains somebody else’s reality or opinion for a set amount of time.  This also includes gossip, so when the office big mouth starts yapping, tell her to zip it.

    Before you start thinking I’m an extremist, I’m not saying to never watch or read another form of media ever again in your life.  I’m simply saying shutting it out for a while allows YOU to decide what to put your attention on.

    Are you appalled I would even suggest such a thing?  You shouldn’t be.  In order to be inwardly attentive, attain a higher state of conscious living, live abundantly, have peace of mind and be happy, you can not let someone influence you to their way of thinking, especially if it’s negative.  Cutting off that high caloric content will shed pounds of bullshit that you never should have digested anyway.

    What is the media? Glad you asked, as if you didn’t know, you shyster you.

    Media is the plural form of medium, or for our purpose of discussion today, the means or agency for communicating or diffusing information, news, and advertisements to the masses.  Did you catch that?  Diffusing.  If my mind serves me right, diffuse means widely spread and diluted.   Diluted is the key word here folks.

    Now let’s do some deductive reasoning and use some common sense.  Unless you live under a rock in the Antarctica, I think we can agree that the media is notoriously known for transmitting diluted information about recent events or happenings be it via newspapers, radio, television or internet. I don’t know about you, but getting something that’s diluted is not worth much to me.

    Every one of us has our own unique reality based on our inner beliefs.  Raw data is filtered by those beliefs or shall I say distorted.  So not only is the news diluted, but it’s also mixed with other peoples’ opinions and beliefs.  Then it’s passed off as news or factual content that we’re supposed to think is truth!

    Here’s a perfect example: Take the holy bible for instance.  It’s called The King James Version of the Holy Bible.  Version?  A version is not only a translation but is a description or account from one point of view, especially as opposed to another; or, a particular form or variation.  I’m not making this up.  Look it up for yourself.

    So now we understand version.  Well, who is King James and why is it his version?  What kind of man was he?  What were his beliefs?  Was he a good or bad person?  Did he have my best interest at heart?  If it’s truth and truth alone, why wasn’t it just called The Bible of Truth?  Personally, I wouldn’t want anybody’s version.  Just give me the truth, the raw data, and I’ll filter it myself.

    Now before I get a lot of emails from die hard Christian fans, let me just say I believe there to be a lot of truth in the bible.  It’s just hidden behind all those metaphors.  As for King James, whom I don’t know, I would have been happier with Rick James’ version…at least I liked his music.

    Notice the tremendous power of suggestion in that example?  More specifically, heterosuggestion, or suggestions from another person or group.  Throughout the ages, all over the world, the power of suggestion has been a dominant factor in the thoughts of human beings.  This is how political creeds and religious beliefs flourish and perpetuate itself.

    Suggestion can be used as a tool to discipline and control.  Sometimes, that’s not a bad thing.  It is bad when it’s used to take control and command over people who have not been taught to understand how the mind works because it can result in enduring patterns of misery, failure, suffering sickness and disaster.

    I’m always mindful of what goes into mass media.  I like to think of it like a recipe that averages about 6,500 calories per serving.  Last I checked, 3,500 calories = 1 pound :-\.

    Media Recipe
    1 cup truth
    1 pinch of confectionary sugar (to sweeten and sugar coat)
    ½ cup of falsehood (to persuade)

    These ingredients make for a good story that is sure to grab the attention of the masses and suck them in.  Just think about it.  Step back and notice how people or places are portrayed.  How do you know it to be true?  Do you know these people?  Have you ever been to these places?  How do you know it to be true, except for what somebody else has told you?  Do you even know the person that told you or is telling the story?  Before I jump on the bandwagon, I ask myself these questions.

    We live in a society that’s ‘socially conditioned’ but I have a right, you have a right, to choose what to think and believe.

    Television, internet, newspapers, magazines, books, movies and radio are the most common outlets for the media.  These outlets are our feeding spoons.  Let’s briefly take a look at what food are on these spoons.

    Television – Subliminal images seeps into your subconscious.  And it’s not just the news you should be concerned about, it’s your favorite shows too.  For example, the shows of a violent nature depicting people robbing banks and killing.  Sometimes it’s even glamorized.  What do you think that is subliminally telling you?  What is it subtly persuading you to do?  What is it highlighting?  These subliminal images are meant to seek into your subconscious and make mindless minions out of those who digest it.

    Internet – is another powerful outlet.  (Using it to read my blog is okay though :D)  Why do you think they call it the world wide web?  Web should ring a bell.  What do spiders do when they want to catch their prey?  They weave a web to catch them.  Now do you see why it’s called the world wide web?  How many people do you know who have fallen prey to something “web” related?

    Newspapers/Magazines/Books, etc. – print media.  Everyday, when you pick up the paper or printed media, dozens of stories are published that could sow the seeds of fear, worry, lack or impending doom and gloom.  If you accept these seeds, they will become your thoughts.  Your thoughts, with any congruent inner beliefs, are manifested.  Now there are some published materials that are positive and nutritionally rich but overall, would you say the good outweighs the bad or vice versa?

    Radio – Everyone loves music.  Beats and sound can penetrate the very core of our souls.  The vibrations can be radiating.  Now just imagine that kind of impress with derogatory or negative lyrics.  That’s one sure way to impressing the mind quickly.  Let’s be real.  You’ve blasted some music with sexy lyrics that has put you in a sexy or sultry mood.  Or what about some thug music that makes you feel like you can go f%#k a son-of-a-b up.

    So you might be saying what am I suppose to do…resort to an Amish lifestyle?  No, you don’t have to be that extreme. But, if you want to rise above the worldly affairs and grow and develop into your full potential, I strongly heterosuggest you go on a media diet.  Your subconscious mind absorbs EVERYTHING and files it into your storehouse of information called that little head of yours.

    Be careful what you let seep into your mind.  Our mind is our most powerful gift from God.  The best things in life ARE FREE.  Don’t let someone convince you otherwise.  After all, if no one convinced you the best things are high-priced, then no one could sell anything to anyone.

    Personally, I go on a media diet sometimes because I want to fulfill my life purpose.  In fulfilling that purpose, I don’t want to struggle, suffer or subject myself to the dismal realities of others.  I have my own issues.

    Final Thought
    You won’t miss anything by NOT digesting the media.  In fact, you’ll be better off.  Think of it this way, watching all that stuff won’t make you any smarter or dumber than you already are.

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    End of 2010…A Toast to 2011

    today is a great day | What a year 2010 has been for me.  A toast *raises glass* to:

    • My beloved grandfather.  Who’s still holding strong at 94 years of age.  For years, he has said, “I’m going to live till I’m 100!”  (The power of the mind is awesome!)
    • My beloved children.  Who have kept me on my toes.  For without them, I would have given up, but because of them, my light burns bright.
    • My dad.  Even though he passed away shortly after I met him, he left me with a brother and sisters.  To my newfound siblings, Bill, LouKisha, Billie and Vikki, I love yall!
    • To my siblings Brandon, Mickey, and Telisa, whom I’ve known all my life, I can’t tell you how much you’ve gotten on my nerves…Just kidding! LOL.  Seriously, I love yall for always having my back.  You’re not only siblings but friends I can trust.
    • To my mom, the only person I can call on who won’t charge me a dime to babysit. (well most times)
    • To my BFF, Tiff, who’s sees my first tear, catches the second and stops the third.

    To everyone else, I didn’t mention.  You probably pissed me off…you know who you are.  If you know you didn’t piss me off, I’m just sleepy and want to wrap this toast up, drink my drinky drink and go to sleep!  But I love yall!

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